thechronicallyinvisiblegirl

To all those who don’t think the rape joke was a problem, or rape jokes are a problem.

I get it, you’re a decent guy. I can even believe it. You’ve never raped anybody. You would NEVER rape anybody. You’re upset that all these feminists are trying to accuse you of doing something or connect you to doing something that, as far as you’re concerned, you’ve never done and would never condone.

And they’ve told you about triggers, and PTSD, and how one in six women is a survivor, and you get it. You do. But you can’t let every time someone gets all upset get in the way of you having a good time, right?

So fine. If all those arguments aren’t going anything for you, let me tell you this. And I tell you this because I genuinely believe you mean it when you say you don’t want to hurt anybody, and you don’t see the harm, and that it’s important to you to do your best to be a decent and good person. And I genuinely believe you when you say you would never associate with a rapist and you think rape really is a very bad thing.

Because this is why I refuse to take rape jokes sitting down-

6% of college age men, slightly over 1 in 20, will admit to raping someone in anonymous surveys, as long as the word “rape” isn’t used in the description of the act.

6% of Penny Arcade’s target demographic will admit to actually being rapists when asked.

A lot of people accuse feminists of thinking that all men are rapists. That’s not true. But do you know who think all men are rapists?

Rapists do.

They really do. In psychological study, the profiling, the studies, it comes out again and again.

Virtually all rapists genuinely believe that all men rape, and other men just keep it hushed up better. And more, these people who really are rapists are constantly reaffirmed in their belief about the rest of mankind being rapists like them by things like rape jokes, that dismiss and normalize the idea of rape.

If one in twenty guys is a real and true rapist, and you have any amount of social activity with other guys like yourself, really cool guy, then it is almost a statistical certainty that one time hanging out with friends and their friends, playing Halo with a bunch of guys online, in a WoW guild, or elsewhere, you were talking to a rapist. Not your fault. You can’t tell a rapist apart any better than anyone else can. It’s not like they announce themselves.

But, here’s the thing. It’s very likely that in some of these interactions with these guys, at some point or another someone told a rape joke. You, decent guy that you are, understood that they didn’t mean it, and it was just a joke. And so you laughed.

And, decent guy who would never condone rape, who would step in and stop rape if he saw it, who understands that rape is awful and wrong and bad, when you laughed?

That rapist who was in the group with you, that rapist thought that you were on his side. That rapist knew that you were a rapist like him. And he felt validated, and he felt he was among his comrades.

You. The rapist’s comrade.

And if that doesn’t make you feel sick to your stomach, if that doesn’t make you want to throw up, if that doesn’t disturb you or bother you or make you feel like maybe you should at least consider not participating in that kind of humor anymore…

Well, maybe you aren’t as opposed to rapists as you claim.

Time-Machine (via a comment at shakesville.com)
illness-to-wellness

illness-to-wellness:

I got a question the other day about how to live with chronic illness and still make plans with friends and have a busy social schedule without wanting to disappoint anyone. This time of year - when graduation parties, summer barbecues, and all sorts of other things are coming up left and right -…

abigailccarter
abigailccarter:

thefaultinourspoons:

isla-clifford-hood:

professorsethdoesitagain:

thehattedmistress:

mendaciousmind:

dirk-strider-the-dick-rider:

caitsmile:

tenstimelady:
from one insomniac to the next
this shit will put you out
there’s a whole line of these drinks pertaining to different things
apparently they’re all psychological except this one
but everyone I’ve talked to said this is the only one that actually works
the first time I only drank to where my index finger is in the picture, but I was out like a light in about 45 minutes
really helpful if you’re trying to fix your sleeping pattern for school

There’s one called Neuro Bliss and its literally what every pmsing girl needs. It’s happiness in a bottle.

I can testify that this shit is literally the fucking best okay. The neuro energy is like an energy drink but lighter and it makes you feel awake without it tasting like death. There’s a neuro focus as well and it makes it easier to concentrate on everything while still being delicious. There’s a whole huge line of them and they’re all different flavors and some are carbonated and some are not.

I see these at the grocery store sometimes.
Maybe I’ll pick one up next time I see it.

ATTENTION ATTENTION
The Neuro line of drinks WORK 100% as a nightly buyer of Neuro Sleep i can fully attest to it’s effects as a very applicable sleep aid.
Neuro Trim is also good for having a full feeling, to keep you from eating too much.
IF YOU HAVE DIFFICULTY SLEEPING, BUY NEURO SLEEP IT WILL HELP YOU


thefaultinourspoons you might find this useful idk? Don’t hate me :P

don’t hate you, I can’t hate you, I start Sixth Form in September, you’re head girl, you can make my life hell. 

all-the-other-urls-are-taken
We need some of this juicee

Yes omg

abigailccarter:

thefaultinourspoons:

isla-clifford-hood:

professorsethdoesitagain:

thehattedmistress:

mendaciousmind:

dirk-strider-the-dick-rider:

caitsmile:

tenstimelady:

from one insomniac to the next

this shit will put you out

there’s a whole line of these drinks pertaining to different things

apparently they’re all psychological except this one

but everyone I’ve talked to said this is the only one that actually works

the first time I only drank to where my index finger is in the picture, but I was out like a light in about 45 minutes

really helpful if you’re trying to fix your sleeping pattern for school

There’s one called Neuro Bliss and its literally what every pmsing girl needs. It’s happiness in a bottle.


I can testify that this shit is literally the fucking best okay. The neuro energy is like an energy drink but lighter and it makes you feel awake without it tasting like death. There’s a neuro focus as well and it makes it easier to concentrate on everything while still being delicious. There’s a whole huge line of them and they’re all different flavors and some are carbonated and some are not.

I see these at the grocery store sometimes.

Maybe I’ll pick one up next time I see it.

ATTENTION ATTENTION


The Neuro line of drinks WORK 100% as a nightly buyer of Neuro Sleep i can fully attest to it’s effects as a very applicable sleep aid.

Neuro Trim is also good for having a full feeling, to keep you from eating too much.

IF YOU HAVE DIFFICULTY SLEEPING, BUY NEURO SLEEP IT WILL HELP YOU

thefaultinourspoons
you might find this useful idk? Don’t hate me :P

don’t hate you, I can’t hate you, I start Sixth Form in September, you’re head girl, you can make my life hell.

all-the-other-urls-are-taken We need some of this juicee

Yes omg

queer-cheer

glowcloud:

The weirdest thing is that people talk about “coming out” as if it’s this big momentous thing that only happens once while in actual fact it’s something that you do almost every single day every time you talk to a new person every time you’re in a new situation you’re constantly weighing your options, the ability to be your true self vs the advantages of being a false self and honestly it’s so fucking exhausting